Lets talk about the special journey....
Recovering from Surgery
by Frances Victory on 05/17/25
It is been quite a few crazy weeks now. Been handling hip pain and then having to surgery & the lovely exciting recovery process!
I am not even 50 years old. Never thought I would be having hip surgery. Just never thought it would happen. But I never took good care of my body. Let myself gain way to much weight. I guess this is MY journey.
I have stopped being angry with myself and my body. Realized that I can't turn time around and change things. Just have to work on the future & keep doing my physical therapy so that now I can start a journey of being a stronger and healthier momma.
It is been hard on my kids. I know it. I can see it. My younger son wants to always be my doctor. He has become even more of a compassionate child and wants to help. Has even been my motivator "if you had surgery then why do you still need your walker? Shouldn't you be using your cane?"
Even though my older son has special needs - it is clear he also gets that things have changed. Confusing for him why we are taking so many Ubers or rides from family and friends. Confused why mommy has to sleep with special pillow & smell like "yucky boo boo cream".
But this is my journey which I hope in the long run is going to make them even stronger, more compassionate little boys who know the importance of taking care and helping others.
Along this time - I have taken a mental list of who has helped me. Who has tried to help me and who I wish never came near me. These are my people & this is my tribe. I will always remember the person who called to ask how I was feeling. Made a joke cause knew i needed a laugh after I had just spent half the day crying in pain. Versus the person who tried to help but wanted everything done THEIR way.
Take a moment and think about the latest stop on your latest journey. Being the special parent of a special child is not easy. Not many people understand it. They never have and they prob never will.
Along the way of being the special parent, we face personal circumstances that may seem like everything is crashing down in front of us.
But just remember - we are special parents who have dealt with more than the average mom and dad. We are stronger. Nothing can crash in front of you.
What's the latest personal obstacle that you faced? (Job loss, surgery, divorce etc).
Who helped you?
How did you help you?
What did you learn about yourself?
